In a candid discussion, the host emphasizes the detrimental impact of self-limiting beliefs on personal and professional growth. He illustrates how individuals often prematurely label themselves as inherently bad at certain skills, like math or sales, without investing the necessary time and effort to learn and improve. He shares anecdotes, including a friend's reluctance to pursue sales due to a lack of training and a young neighbor's success in real estate through self-taught methods and perseverance. The host urges listeners to adopt the mindset that skills can be acquired through consistent practice, and to reject the notion that initial incompetence precludes eventual mastery. Additionally, Speaker C encourages audience support for the podcast to assist more entrepreneurs.
"They inherently limit themselves from learning because they have this checkbox in their head that as soon as it gets difficult, they say, ah, I'm bad at this. I am bad at this. I identify with being poor at this thing and therefore will never succeed at this thing. That's a requirement for being successful."
This quote illustrates the idea that self-imposed limitations are a significant barrier to learning and success. If an individual decides they are inherently bad at something, they are less likely to persist and improve.
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Speaker B introduces the podcast's main focus, which revolves around business growth strategies and customer relationship management, while also setting the stage for an exchange of experiences and lessons.
"What's going on? Everyone happy whatever day of the week it is. Friday. Happy Friday. I wanted to make this kind of short video for you because I had two or three things happen over the last handful of days that just seemed to be this repeated thing. And it reminded me that a lot of people struggle with this, which is they believe that they are inherently bad at things because they are not good at them. And I think that is an incredibly dangerous belief set to have."
Speaker A addresses the common issue of people doubting their abilities due to a fixed mindset, which they aim to challenge and change through the podcast.
"So I think one of the most viable beliefs, because in terms of building on success, in my opinion, first you need to develop skills, then you need to develop character traits to make sure that you do those skills, and then you have to make sure that your beliefs are correct so that you can open up the world, right? But the beliefs are kind of imbued throughout the entire process. Because if you don't believe you can acquire skill, you never will, right? If you don't believe you can have a character trait, you never will."
Speaker A outlines the importance of beliefs in the process of skill and character development. They argue that without the belief in the possibility of acquiring a skill or trait, one cannot succeed.
"And so I was having a conversation with a friend of mine who's looking to switch career paths. She's trying to figure out she wasn't making as much money as she wanted to make. And the issue that she was dealing with, she's like, she just doesn't have a valuable enough skill set, right? And she's like, I want to make this much money. And I was like, well, you're never going to do that doing what you're doing, right? And I was like, have you considered learning how to sell? Right? Because if you sell, if you still have the desire for security, but if you know how to sell, you can pretty much write your own paycheck if you know where to look. And she was like, I'm not good at sales. I'm not a salesperson. And I was like, well, how many hours of sales training have you gone through? She was like, none. And I was like, well, then why would it be reasonable for you to be good at sales, right? That doesn't make any sense. Of course you're not good at sales. Like, you haven't done it."
Speaker A recounts a discussion with a friend about the importance of gaining valuable skills, such as sales, to increase income potential. The friend's self-doubt due to a lack of training is highlighted, and Speaker A uses this as an example to demonstrate the irrationality of the belief that one is inherently bad at something without having attempted to learn it.
"Well, none. Well, then why is it reasonable that it would be unreasonable for you to be good at this skill, given the amount of investment you've made?"
This quote underscores the speaker's point that without dedicating time to study marketing, it is unreasonable to expect oneself to excel in it. The speaker is challenging the listener to reflect on their own efforts towards skill acquisition.
"And I can see people starting to freak out because they're like, I'm not good at math, and I have to lean back or lean pressure onto that belief because one that's a belief that will literally never serve you."
The speaker observes the panic that arises when math is involved in business discussions and stresses the importance of confronting and challenging the belief of being bad at math, as it is detrimental to one's growth and success.
"You can massively succeed in business knowing only, not even algebra, just basic multiplication, subtraction, division."
The speaker simplifies the math skills needed for business, reassuring listeners that fundamental arithmetic is adequate for success, demystifying the complexity often associated with business math.
"And so everyone gets tripped up and then they say, I'm bad at math, when in reality they just don't understand the term."
This quote clarifies that the issue is not a lack of mathematical ability but a lack of understanding of business terminology, which can be mistaken for being bad at math.
"I identify with being poor at this thing and therefore will never succeed at this thing. That's a requirement for being successful."
The speaker points out the harmful cycle where individuals label themselves as inherently bad at a skill, leading to a self-fulfilling prophecy that hinders their success.
"If someone can, therefore I can."
The speaker shares a personal cornerstone belief that one's ability to achieve is not limited by others' achievements, suggesting that anything another person can do is also possible for oneself if the same actions are taken.
"If you spend an hour a day practicing sales, over a year, you will likely be in the top 10%, 5%, 2% of people."
This quote suggests a direct correlation between the time invested in practicing a skill and the level of expertise achieved, emphasizing the benefits of consistent effort over time.
"People do absolutely nothing except for deal with their emotions on a regular basis and procrastinate and give themselves reasons for why they are not successful."
This quote highlights a common behavior where individuals focus on their emotions and procrastination, using them as excuses for their lack of success. It suggests a disconnect between their expectations of success and the actual effort they have invested.
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The speaker emphasizes the non-commercial nature of the podcast and requests audience support in sharing the content to benefit entrepreneurs, indicating the podcast's mission to positively impact the business community.
"And the thing is, he's too young to know that he can't do things yet. And what that does is it makes him incredibly dangerous because he hasn't been slapped in the face by the world yet."
This quote discusses the advantage of youthful optimism and the lack of limitations that often come with inexperience. The speaker sees this as a strength that can drive the young individual to take risks and potentially succeed.
"And so he just started cold calling based on what the YouTube videos said off of a free list that he found on the Internet. And he closed his first deal as 18 year old."
This quote illustrates the practical steps taken by the young mentee to learn and apply new skills, leading to real-world success. It emphasizes the value of self-education and initiative.
"But what I did was I prepared him mentally by saying, like, you're going to suck at this for a very, very long time. And eventually, after doing it so many times, it will be unreasonable for you to suck."
The mentor's advice to the mentee is to expect initial failure as part of the learning process, with the understanding that perseverance will lead to improvement and success. This approach is suggested as a universal method for skill development.
But if I do these actions, it would, over time, be unreasonable for me to be bad at these things.
This quote emphasizes that consistent actions and practice over time make it unlikely for someone to remain unskilled in a particular area, highlighting the power of effort over innate talent.
And that's why people spend so long in the beginner stage, is because they inherently dispel away their ability to learn and get better because they. Well, I'm not good at that. Well, obviously you're not good at that. You have not done it.
This quote discusses how self-doubt and a fixed mindset keep individuals in the beginner stage because they dismiss their ability to improve before even attempting to learn.
And I studied so much harder on the math for the GMAT, and I ended up doing hitting 99th percentile on it. But that was because I did 16 phone books of problems over four months. I spent 4 hours a day for four months. I was like, I will do so much work that would be unreasonable for me to not be good at this.
This quote illustrates the speaker's intense commitment to improving at math for the GMAT exam, leading to exceptional results, and serves as an example of how dedication can overcome initial weaknesses.
I hope that if there's something that you want to acquire from a skill standpoint, that you allow yourself to be reasonably bad ad until a point where it would be unreasonable for you to be ad given the amount of time and effort you've put into it.
This quote motivates listeners to permit themselves to be novices at the beginning and to continue working until their efforts yield skillfulness, reinforcing the growth mindset philosophy.