In this podcast, the host discusses the relentless pursuit of business success, personal relationships, and the allocation of time. He shares a personal anecdote about outworking a competitor by sacrificing personal time, illustrating his commitment to business growth. The host also delves into the dynamics of friendships, suggesting that the duration one is willing to tolerate negative periods in a relationship correlates with the level of love and the history of positive reinforcement. He emphasizes the importance of providing value in relationships and questions the societal pressure to maintain connections that no longer serve one's goals. Additionally, the host touches on the concept of redefining relationships and goals through the sacrifices one is willing to make, and he reflects on the societal narratives that shape our feelings about change and progress. He concludes by encouraging listeners to evaluate their time investments and to prioritize actions that align with their ultimate ambitions.
"I remember thinking, so how happy I was seeing that because I was like, this is when I'm going to kill you. Like, this is when I'm going to beat you. Is that every moment that you're not working on your business, I will get ahead of you."
The quote demonstrates the speaker's intense competitive drive and the belief that personal sacrifices are necessary to outperform competitors in the business world.
"The longer you're willing to wait is, the more love you have for the person. I see love as the measurement, like how much you love the person is how much you're willing to endure for the positive reinforcement."
This quote encapsulates the speaker's view on love and endurance in relationships, suggesting that the depth of love can be gauged by one's willingness to endure negative periods in anticipation of positive experiences.
"If someone's gonna take 2 hours, they took a block, because, like, people don't switch tasks. Well, I don't, especially."
This quote illustrates the speaker's approach to managing time in discrete blocks, emphasizing the importance of dedicated focus and the reluctance to switch between tasks frequently.
"The best way to maintain relationships is to continue to provide value to the other person. Because if you're both providing value, and ideally you both feel like you're getting the better end of the deal, then the relationship will continue indefinitely."
This quote emphasizes the speaker's belief that relationships should be sustained through mutual exchange of value, suggesting that this is key to long-lasting connections.
"The stories about friends leaving the hometown and no longer remember where they're from is one that is told by society, because society is the majority."
This quote highlights the idea that societal narratives are often crafted by the majority, who may have different experiences and perspectives from those who leave.
"And so if you feel bad about it, it's because there's a story that someone told you when you were little from the 99% that said, this is how the world is, and you believe to be true, and it's not."
The speaker points out that feelings of guilt or wrongdoing may stem from childhood stories told by the majority, which may not necessarily be true or applicable to everyone.
"So if you feel terrible about it, it's also because feeling terrible serves you in some way."
This quote suggests that negative feelings can have a self-serving purpose, such as affirming one's identity as a good person.
"And this is why shedding identities is such a core part of entrepreneurship, is that you have to be willing to say, I am no longer this way."
The speaker emphasizes the need for entrepreneurs to be willing to let go of previous self-identities to grow and accept new realities.
"And so two people, and this is why language gets really tricky, is that one person can say, I think humility is stupid, another person can say, I think humility is awesome."
The speaker illustrates how the same word, 'humility,' can have different interpretations, leading to contrasting opinions.
"And so when you define those things, the reason I give that lens of love of how much do I love them, how much am I willing to endure to keep this relationship?"
By defining key concepts for oneself, the speaker suggests it becomes easier to make decisions about personal relationships and how much effort to invest in them.
"And so the people who become wealthiest understand how to trade their time for the best stuff."
This quote implies that successful individuals are adept at using their time in the most beneficial way, leading to wealth accumulation.
"And then you become different over time, because if you look at someone's calendar, you can see what their life is like."
The speaker suggests that examining how one spends their time can reveal a lot about their life direction and personal changes over time.
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The speaker expresses satisfaction with the success and positive reception of their recommended book.
"The Kindle book is audiobook is as low as they'll let me put it on for it. So I think it's $12."
This quote provides practical information about the availability and pricing of the book being recommended for readers and listeners.
"I'm like, do I want to take half my dollar of the $2 I have for that day, half of it, and give it to this person? I'm like, I don't know."
This quote illustrates the speaker's internal debate about whether to spend their limited time on someone else's request.
"And the reason it's hard is because it's hard because it's against what we were taught, but we were taught by people who don't want to do what we want to do."
This quote explains the difficulty in saying "no" stems from diverging from societal norms, which were set by people with different life goals.
"I love you, but you don't have to sit at my table because this is what I want to do with my life."
The speaker expresses that they prioritize their life goals over maintaining relationships that do not align with those goals.
"Your life becomes what you tolerate. And so it's like, if I want to have a fucking epic life, I want fucking epic people."
This quote highlights the speaker's belief that the quality of one's life is determined by the standards they set and the people they choose to include in it.
"I can talk to a champion of bodybuilding and we can resonate on the fact that he wanted to be the best."
The quote reflects the speaker's appreciation for the dedication required to excel in any domain, not just their own.
"But what if when you let them go, their lives get better? What if they find someone who's a better match for them?"
This quote encourages the idea of releasing people from relationships or jobs for the possibility of finding a better fit elsewhere.
"So then why would you not give them that choice or give them that option or that chance?"
The speaker questions why one wouldn't allow others the opportunity to improve their situation, especially when the current trajectory is negative.
"And there's just different paths. Neither of them is wrong. But this path, especially if you're on the path less taken, the path of the entrepreneur, the path of somebody wants to build something that's real and crazy and big and epic and might not even happen it, then you have to be willing to walk a different path."
The quote acknowledges that pursuing unconventional goals may necessitate a different approach to life and relationships.
"And that means that you do have to shed friends faster, because you will grow and change into a different person."
This quote suggests that personal growth can lead to outgrowing certain friendships, which is a natural part of pursuing one's unique path.
they should just redefine the thing as what they have to sacrifice in order to achieve it.
This quote emphasizes redefining goals in terms of the sacrifices required to achieve them, suggesting a shift in perspective from mere aspiration to the practical cost of success.
And so I think if we redefine our goals by the sacrifices we're willing to make to achieve it, like, what we are willing to put on the altar of our success, like, what we're willing to literally kill so that we can have the dream, it would make a lot more sense to people why they're not successful.
The speaker suggests that understanding and accepting the necessary sacrifices for success can clarify why some people do not achieve their goals.
And so I think the easiest way to do it is literally look at your calendar, look at where you allocate your $24 bills per day, and say, like, am I investing in the things that are going to get me there?
The speaker compares daily time to a finite currency, suggesting that one should invest their time as they would money, with a focus on achieving goals.
How much do I love my goal? How much am I willing to endure or sacrifice or give up in order to maintain that relationship that I have with my dream.
This quote asks reflective questions about the level of commitment one has to their goal, equating sacrifice with the strength of their desire for success.
And so it's just the extent to which you're willing to sacrifice things that other people are not willing to sacrifice.
The speaker highlights that the degree of sacrifice distinguishes those who achieve greatness from the rest.
This is when I'm going to kill you. This is when I'm going to beat you, is that every moment that you are not working on your business, I will get ahead of you.
The speaker expresses a competitive mindset, seeing another's leisure time as an opportunity to gain an advantage.
You live a fucking perfect life for you. I don't want your life. You don't want my life. Right. No, I would never want your life. Cool. So we're in agreement.
This quote illustrates the speaker's recognition of the subjective nature of success and the importance of individuality in life choices.
Something has to stop in order to move forward.
The speaker underscores the necessity of ceasing certain activities to make room for goal-oriented actions, reinforcing the theme of sacrifice for progress.