In a thought-provoking discussion, Alex from acquisition.com delves into the philosophy of meaning and happiness in life and business. He challenges conventional beliefs about desire, suggesting that articulating wants can create a self-imposed contract for unhappiness. Alex also questions the necessity of ascribing meaning to life, proposing that acceptance without judgment leads to freedom from societal "shoulds." He shares insights from conversations with his philosopher friend, Dr. Gashi, highlighting the importance of language in shaping our reality. Furthermore, Alex touches on the concept of nihilism, the impermanence of wealth and achievements, and the relativity of trauma across cultures. The conversation explores the liberation that comes from rejecting societal expectations and the empowerment in controlling one's perception of meaning.
"I feel like in the casino of life, you get tapped on the shoulder by the grim reaper, and he says, your time's up. And then all your chips get pushed right back to the middle of the table, and then you leave the casino empty handed because it was a fake game with fake rules that didn't matter."
The quote emphasizes the idea that life is temporary and that the constructs we live by are ultimately meaningless in the face of mortality.
"I'm trying to build a billion dollar thing with acquisition.com. I always wish bezos, musk, and Buffett had documented their journey. So I'm doing it for the rest of us."
Alex highlights his entrepreneurial goals and the importance he places on sharing his experiences for the benefit of others.
"Desire is a contract we make with ourselves to be unhappy until we get what we want."
This quote encapsulates Alex's perspective on desire, suggesting that it inherently leads to dissatisfaction until the desired outcome is achieved.
"I believe marriage is marriage, and I believe my marriage is my marriage, and I believe your marriage is your marriage. And I believe that I can work 24 hours a day if I want to, and that is all, period."
The quote illustrates Alex's belief in individualism and the rejection of societal norms in favor of personal acceptance.
"Not because it's like when people say, hey, work set these goals and the rest will take care of itself, it still makes the rest taking care of itself. The reason that you're doing it, which means that it's actually not getting around it when people are like, you got to be process driven."
This quote questions the common advice of being process-driven and suggests that even this can be a subtle way of focusing on outcomes rather than the process itself.
"My closest friend is a philosopher, and I use that in terms of the actual meaning of the word philosopher. So, like, filet to love. And then sophos is wisdom or knowledge. So he's a lover of knowledge. Lover of wisdom. And we talk every week."
Alex attributes his philosophical insights and personal growth to his discussions with a close friend who embodies the love of wisdom.
"The language that we use matters a lot, because how we say things is how we think things."
This quote highlights the connection between language and thought, suggesting that the way we articulate our experiences influences our mindset and outcomes.
"And then I stopped judging myself for being unhappy, and then I stopped thinking about it altogether." "I really don't like the alcoholics anomalous concept of every morning waking up and saying, I am an alcoholic, high, whatever."
These quotes emphasize the negative impact of self-judgment and the potential harm in daily affirmations that reinforce a negative identity. They suggest that not focusing on one's perceived shortcomings can lead to a more fulfilling life.
"I think it's exiting the equation altogether. So it's saying I am worthless, instead of saying, like, I want to be worthy or I am worthy, just saying worthiness doesn't matter."
This quote introduces the concept of "exiting the equation," which means completely disregarding the idea of self-worth rather than trying to affirm it or fight against a negative self-image.
"So I'm 100% nihilist. I believe that we die. Nothing happens. And it is what it is." "It creates some levels of freedom that allow for clarity of thought and also for the ability to take risks that most people can't take."
These quotes explain the speaker's nihilistic belief system and how it can provide freedom from societal pressures, leading to clear thinking and the ability to take risks.
"Why should we process a traumatic event? What does that mean?" "If the circumstance is the same, why was it traumatic?"
These quotes challenge the idea that emotional processing is necessary and propose that the definition of trauma is not universal but rather influenced by cultural context.
"The only ask that I can ever have of you guys is that you help me spread the word so we can help more entrepreneurs make more money, feed their families, make better products, and have better experiences for their employees and customers."
This quote is a direct appeal to the audience to support the podcast by leaving reviews and sharing it with others, emphasizing the altruistic goal of helping entrepreneurs.
"So if it's traumatic in one instance and not traumatic in another, then it means that we can basically change the cultural narrative that we're ascribing to our context and make it not traumatic."
This quote highlights the idea that trauma is not inherent to an event but is rather a product of the cultural narrative surrounding the event.
"If we think we feel like we have a narrative that says, if I don't mourn, it means I didn't care about them. Right? That's a statement of belief."
This quote illustrates the belief that mourning is expected as a sign of caring, yet this connection is a societal construct rather than an objective truth.
"And so at the end of the day, end to end, bottom, bottom, root, all our brains do is just create and destroy meaning."
This quote emphasizes the fundamental human process of interpreting and reinterpreting the world around us, which shapes our experiences and reactions.
"500 years ago, you see, like, a parent killed in front of you? Isn't that because all you have in your mind is like, food, shelter, water?"
The quote suggests that in the past, the focus on survival may have overshadowed the emotional impact of traumatic events, which could be perceived differently today.
"We have to agree on the definition before we can talk about it."
This quote stresses the importance of agreeing on the meanings of words before engaging in a discussion to ensure clear and effective communication.
"I ended up not believing in it. And I can give a variety of reasons, but I'll give you the simplest one."
This quote introduces the speaker's personal journey of faith and subsequent departure from it based on logical evaluation.
"You actually create another false binary, which is believe or not believe, when in reality is to what extent you believe, it's how hard you believe."
The quote criticizes the oversimplified binary of belief versus non-belief in religious contexts, suggesting that belief is not a simple on/off switch but rather a spectrum.
"I was like, fuck happiness. I was like, I'm just going to do stuff that I think is cool."
The quote reflects Alex's rejection of the pursuit of happiness as a primary goal, instead choosing to engage in activities that he personally values or finds interesting, regardless of their impact on his happiness.
"I still have a long term perspective of, like, this is what I want to build. I want to write these books. I want to build these courses. I want to do this stuff. But it's like, those are things that I enjoy, so that's what I do. I love it."
This quote highlights Alex's long-term vision and the joy he derives from working towards his goals, illustrating that his actions are not impulsive but rather aligned with his personal interests and aspirations.
"I know it's crazy stuff, but I think that you can't do what 99% of people are doing if you want to be in the 1%, fundamentally. And so you have to have what I would consider maybe uncomfortable conversations."
The quote encapsulates Alex's philosophy that achieving exceptional success often requires taking a path less traveled and having the courage to engage in dialogues that may be outside the comfort zone of the majority.
"It's the only thing I don't have a lot of."
This quote succinctly expresses Alex's view on time as a finite and precious resource, which shapes his attitude towards what deserves his attention and what does not.
"But I feel like in the casino of life, you get tapped on the shoulder by the grim reaper, and he says, your time's up, and then all your chips get pushed right back to the middle of the table, and then you leave the casino empty handed because it was a fake game with fake rules that didn't matter."
The quote is a metaphorical reflection on the nature of life and death, emphasizing the temporary nature of wealth and the ultimate equality imposed by mortality, which renders material accumulation meaningless in the grand scheme of things.
"But it's a great analogy. A lot to think about this one. Yeah, I'm going to have to rewatch."
This quote indicates Speaker B's appreciation for the depth of Alex's analogy and signifies that the conversation had a significant impact, meriting further contemplation.