In a reflective conversation, the host discusses the profound impact of unconditional belief and support in relationships, drawing from personal experiences and biblical references. The host, inspired by Ben Horowitz's distinction between friends for good and bad news, emphasizes the rarity and significance of friends who celebrate and support unconditionally. Recounting a conversation with his father, who initially doubted his career choices, the host contrasts this with his mother's earlier support, underscoring the value of believing in someone's potential before it manifests. The host extends this concept to parenting, entrepreneurship, and personal relationships, advocating for unconditional pride, love, and respect based on character rather than achievements. Finally, the host and Speaker C encourage listeners to share the podcast to reach and inspire more entrepreneurs.
"There's two types of friends in this world. You have the types of friends that you call when you have good news, who are amazing and celebrate with you, and then you have the types of friends who you call when you have bad news."
This quote introduces the central theme of friendship and support, categorizing friends based on the situations in which we rely on them: those for celebration and those for consolation.
"And what was interesting for me was that I didn't actually feel any emotional response from that. And so I started thinking about it, and I was thinking more of, I was like, why? Why do I have no emotional response to my dad saying that he's proud of me?"
This quote captures Speaker A's introspection on their emotional detachment from their father's approval, prompting an exploration of the underlying reasons for this reaction.
"A lot of people, I don't have many people that I would call for good news because there's not a lot of people that I know that would really genuinely celebrate with me that would genuinely want me to succeed."
This quote highlights the speaker's perception of the rarity of true friends who are genuinely happy for one's achievements and willing to celebrate them without reservation.
"And so I think ultimately what it comes down to is my mom, on the other hand, was supportive, eventually much sooner."
This quote contrasts the different levels and timings of support from Speaker A's parents, with the mother's earlier support being more impactful on their emotional well-being.
"And I think the key piece to this is believing before you can see."
This quote encapsulates the theme of having faith or belief in someone's potential or success before there is tangible evidence, which is presented as an important aspect of support and friendship.
Jesus in this part in the Bible, he just come back from the dead. And some people had heard rumors about it. And Thomas is doubtered. And he's like, I don't believe that. No matter what, no one comes back from the dead, right? And so anyways, he's there and he puts his fingers to the holes and it's like, oh, my God, I can't believe that's you. Jesus responds to him and know you believe because you can see. But blessed are those who believe, who have not seen and yet still believe.
This quote narrates the Biblical account of Doubting Thomas, who needed physical evidence of Jesus' resurrection to believe it. Jesus' response highlights the virtue of those who believe without seeing, which is a central theme of faith.
And I think there's a ton of power in that. That's taken outside of the like, that's. That's outside of just the whole faith component. But having the belief in something before you can see it within the context of a human relationship, I think, is one of the most powerful things you can give to someone.
The speaker emphasizes that the concept of belief without evidence is not limited to religious faith but is also crucial in human relationships, suggesting that showing belief in someone can be a profound gift.
Because ultimately, if someone comes up to me now who knew me, you know what I mean, and did not believe and then says, I'm really proud of you, it doesn't have any power because, well, sure, you're proud of us now because, well, here we are. It would make sense for you to be proud of us now. And so that would be a conditional reaction, right? That's a conditional reaction based on circumstance.
The speaker illustrates that belief or pride expressed after success is achieved does not hold the same weight as belief shown during times of uncertainty, as it is often conditional and based on the outcome rather than the journey or potential.
The power in the significance of a relationship that really moves you and that ties you. And this is what I'm hoping, maybe some person here does this for someone else, is that if you can believe in someone without condition, without circumstance before it happens, those of you who are parents, that's the time is when there is no fruit yet you're planting, the seeds, you're watering, but there's nothing there to be proud of yet. And yet you still are proud.
This quote discusses the profound impact of relationships built on unconditional belief and support. It particularly calls on parents to have faith in their children's potential even before any accomplishments are evident.
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This quote is a direct appeal to the audience to assist in the podcast's growth and outreach by spreading the word, highlighting the podcast's altruistic goals of helping entrepreneurs succeed without the influence of ads or merchandise sales.
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The speaker provides a specific action for the audience to take to support the podcast, emphasizing the importance of ratings and reviews in increasing the podcast's visibility and reach.
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The quotes highlight the importance the hosts place on sharing the podcast and leaving reviews. They emphasize the ease of leaving a review and the significant impact it can have on the podcast's reach and influence.
"Right? And so it's the concept of unconditional love, unconditional respect, one that's not talked about nearly as frequently, or unconditional pride from like, a parent to a child." "It's based on who they are. Because of who you are, I am proud of who you are. I love you because you are my husband wife. I will respect you because you are my husband wife, not because of what you have done, but because of who I am and who I choose to be."
These quotes outline the idea that unconditional emotions should be directed towards the person's inherent qualities rather than their achievements or behavior. It's a call for people to base their feelings on the essence of a person's character.
"There's another verse that's kind of related to this, where he says, where Jesus talked about being kind to people, the intention of this morning was not to be biblical. I was just like, it's been on my mind. So he says, even tax collectors are nice to their friends."
The speaker references a biblical context to convey the message that kindness should extend beyond our friends and to those who may not be kind to us. It's a reflection on the broader application of kindness in our lives.
"The difficulty is in believing in someone who most people would not believe it. It's in loving someone who is acting unlovable. It's giving respect to someone who is not respectable or acting in a way that is respectable." "And so I think that one of the most powerful things that you can do as a human being is to believe before you can see."
These quotes discuss the power of belief in others and the impact it can have on their development and actions. The speaker emphasizes the importance of having faith in people's potential before they have demonstrated it, which can be a catalyst for positive change.
"It's great to say, like, hey, you're a great sales guy after you're doing great sales, but it's believing in them before it happens. And that's where the power is."
The quote emphasizes the importance of support and belief in someone's potential before they have proven themselves through results.
"For me, it means more to me when my mom says, I'm proud of you now, because she was proud of me before it happened, right?"
This quote illustrates the emotional significance of receiving support and pride from a loved one, particularly because it was given in advance of any achievements.
"In contrary to that, and I'm not hating on my dad. I love my dad, and it made sense for him. That's the thing, is it is logical to not do that."
The speaker acknowledges the logical perspective of not offering support without evidence but contrasts it with the emotional aspect of belief and encouragement.
"But it is not the thing that drives a deep emotional tie or bond or allows someone to reach a new level of achievement, transformation, whatever."
This quote conveys that logical skepticism does not contribute to the emotional bond or personal development that belief and support can foster.
"I hope that you are all the type of friend that people want to call when they have good news because you can actually genuinely celebrate with them because you genuinely want them to succeed..."
This quote describes the ideal supportive friend who rejoices in others' success without jealousy.
"And on the flip side, you're the type of person that people can call when they have bad news because they know that you're not going to say, I told you so."
The quote highlights the importance of being a compassionate and supportive friend during difficult times, offering comfort rather than criticism.
"So I think all of that comes down to being an unconditional human and not basing the actions of how you are talking to your employees, talking to your spouse, talking to your parents, talking to your kids based on the circumstance, but based on the pre determined relationship that you already have and who you choose to baby."
This quote encapsulates the concept of unconditional relationships, suggesting that how we communicate with others should be guided by the nature of our relationship with them, not by the circumstances we find ourselves in.